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Mooksville aged 36
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Friendly , Knowledgeable , Veggie

Self description

Male , 36

I'm 33 years old and live in Brighton with my fiancé and our 1 year old daughter. I'm a senior manager in a fundraising company and have worked in the charity sector for about 7 years now, previously working in recruitment and for a high street bank.

I was raised by my single father in a council house (quite unusual for the 80s) and went through an unenjoyable state education before reinventing myself at University (I got a 2:1 in Law) and have carved a pretty successful (sadly middle class) life for myself since then.

My Dad instilled me with a pretty solid work ethic which meant I've worked many jobs since I was 15 - garden centres, call centres, paper rounds, car salesman, kitchen salesman, barman, debt collector, etc...and I've spent time travelling and getting to know an awful lot of interesting things (and a lot of boring things) about people, places and challenges around the world.

I'm a vegatarian and play a lot of sport, mainly to try and keep my gut under control.

Life experiences

General life questions

I've had a broad experience in life and in work and would like to be able to reassure young people that no matter how difficult or challenging something is there is always a way out, even its it means accepting that things are rubbishing and then working out a way to try and make them better or move on.

I was bullied at school, so might be able to help on that front. I came from a 'broken home' and turned out okay. I didn't know what to do for a job even during University but forged a successful career despite not being top of the class in every subject (I never got an A in school). I was a late developer but have managed to meet some wonderful women and have a number of fulfilling relationships, and now have a loving partner and little daughter.

I'm a good listener and might be able to reassure people in this way.

Job problems, career decisions and other work advice

I worked for a recruitment consultancy for a few years and have been responsible for hiring people for the past 7 years so should be able to help with people if they are struggling for career advice or finding a new job.

I manage 70 people so have seen most challenging situations develop so can probably advise on the best (and worst) ways to handle things. Usually, being honest and communicating is the answer.

Coping with becoming a new Dad

I'm 1 year in and may be able to talk about the nerves surrounding becoming a father for the first time and may be able to offer some practical tips. Although I'm still learning!

Why mentor on horsesmouth?

I saw an advert in Shortlist to help support young people. I was lucky to have an incredibly supportive father who I can still turn to, but I have a half brother raised elsewhere who made a number of bad decisions and he's still struggling to cope with them now at 25. I would've like to have been there for him more, and I'd like to be able to listen and offer support to anybody else out there who might need it. I've worked for charities for years, including the NSPCC so would like to be able to give any support I can to people who need a first or second opinion or to just vent.

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