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nelsonfloyd
nelsonfloyd aged 45
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Male , 45

Hi I'm Dave, I'm a 42yr support worker working with autism and learning difficulties but more recently I have moved into supporting adults with acquired brain injuries. I have been a support worker for 5yrs but previous to this I was a mechanic who had run my own business for 10yrs and worked as a manager in one of the national tyre companies for 5yrs. I'm also in my second year studying to become a counsellor. Keen music fan and play guitar, though only to a basic level. Love nature and I'm quite spiritual.

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After strained relationships with my parents and bad relationships with partners, I was always the one pointing the finger, accusing their behaviour as the reasons for my emotional state, I had real trust issues leading to me shutting off and finding refuge in social cocaine use for 8yrs, 3yrs of this spent in full blown addiction. I started to have counselling and at first my drug use carried on but what did happen was the relationship with my parents changed, it grew and became really healthy but I was still a secret coke addict but by then I had started to feel a sense of not wanting to let them down anymore and pretty soon after I quit cocaine and have not used for 3yrs. During this time I went from blaming everyone else to learning about myself and accepting responsibility for my own choices, since then my life has gone from strength to strength emotionally.

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I have put general because I'm not sure I have specific experience to help specific problems but I feel I have plenty of all round experience from my own life experiences to be a positive influence or just someone to talk to. I'm in my second yr studying counselling so understand and try to use these basic listening skills in everyday life, empathy, non judgemental, asking open questions, not really offering advice but letting someone else talk and discover for themselves their answers, I know a little about CBT and have used this in my own life and given advice to people who would like to know the basics of CBT and how it works.

Why mentor on horsesmouth?

I think having a good mentor can make a real difference in your life, I know it did to mine. Being a positive influence has always been important to me, right back to when I was a young mechanic helping the apprentices then having my own business and working with connexions mentoring expelled school kids but within a work place, right up to the job I now do and my future plans to be a counsellor. My life hasn't been without issues, strained relations with parents, bad relationships, wrong choices and an 8yr emotional void lost in a haze of alcohol and drug use. Having positive people in my life, people I could be honest with about my situation without being judged was huge and 5yrs ago I changed my life around, had some counselling, sold my business and became a support worker, I have been clean for 3yrs and now have great relationships with both my parents and I'm 18mnths into the healthiest and most mature relationship of my life.

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