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Brandybutter aged 32
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Female , 32

I was bullied a lot at school which has had some impact on my life other then just being really shy. I self harmed and gradually had more and more panic attacks when I was stressed.
I tried to ignore this, but it got worse and a year and a half ago I had a really bad experience which developed my panic attacks into a fear of crowds. This affected my everyday life.
A year and a half on I have much improved - I can go into a fairly busy town centre and can just about cope on a busy bus. It is getting better everyday and life is becoming more and more positive with the help of the people around me and through my own will power.

Life experiences

Fear of crowds, panic attacks

I have had plenty of experience in this and would hope that my experience might help someone in some way. I can try to explain how I am overcoming this anxiety and can give help and advice on what is working for me.


This can make simple things in life quite hard - I would like to talk to anyone who needs a friendly chat about this and I can just offer my thoughts and experiences.

Self harm

I self harmed for a long time. Seeing the scars made me stop as other people also seemed to see them, even when I tried to cover them up. Sometimes people blame themselves for something you do. There are ways of working through some problems.

Why mentor on horsesmouth?

I want to share my experiences and offer my opinions on what worked for me. I hope that having someone to talk to about your and their experiences makes someone feel like they are not alone. I also am a very good listener and like to ask questions, and hope that someone will benefit from getting in contact with me.

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