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Kirstyyy09 aged 23
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Female , 23

My name is Kirsty, i'm an 18 year old university student in Cardiff studying Psychology. I've got 3 siblings and my parents are divorced - my younger brother has got Autism and my mum has got Bipolar. My younger two siblings live with my dad and step-mum around 200 miles away. When I graduate from university in four years time, I hope to specialise in Child Psychology. My journey to university was very, very complex but now I'm here I couldn't see me doing anything else.

Life experiences


I know how difficult it can be to be someones carer. I had to care for my mum since the age of 16 but I also had to keep it a secret because she didn't want people to know about it - it put so much pressure on me and the combination of the secret and her actual disability was getting me down. All it takes is for someone to talk to you and help you and things seem so much brighter and that is what I want to do.


Getting into university this year has been a very difficult process for me - my mum completely banned me from going so I had to go behind her back to get my application in, I couldn't tell any of my teachers that my mum didn't want me to do it so they were adding extra pressure on me about deadlines etc - I got rejected from one of my choices and the other invited me to an interview which I couldn't attend so I accepted that I wasn't going and just left it at that. That was until on clearing day I thought i'd give a different course a try and got in - told my mum and she made it incredibly difficult for me, i only had a month to get EVERYTHING sorted before I had to leave and my mum wasn't talking to me, so with the combined pressures I was saying to myself I was just going to give up, but I received an awful lot of support from my friends and their families and I was so apprecative for it - without that i would never have gone and I love it. I want to allow others to have the uni exp.

Teenage Relationships

I've had many relationships through my teenage years meaning i've had many experiences, all my friends have turned to me for advice on things, anything, and they always get it - they always tell me that I give the best advice so I feel I could help others in this way.

Why mentor on horsesmouth?

Mainly, because I've been in places before where I've just wanted someone to talk to and not had it myself so I want to do my best to ensure everyone has someone. My mum and I had a very difficult relationship growing up and it wasn't until two years ago she was diagnosed with Bipolar - since then I have been her full time carer as well as being a full time student and having a very very hectic job to try and keep the house going. I've also got a younger brother who has autism. When all of this first started, I was so young and it was very hectic for me to cope and I went through a really dark time, and now looking back at it I can see how easy it would have been to get through it had I got the right support, support which I hope to give. In addition, my latest experiences with university have proved very difficult - I had to go against my family to try and get myself a good education which has left me with little finances but yet again would have been easier had I had someone to talk

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