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tom38
tom38 aged 44
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Male , 44

I'm Tom, 38, 40 next year. I'm married, live in North London, trying for kids, surf, ski, play squash, read a lot, write. I studied English, lived in Japan for a year and went into advertising. Recently I've changed career. Relatively, I'm a lucky guy, healthy, usually happy with some great friends. But life's not been perfect and sometimes it's been tough. There are different challenges around every corner! For me in life, people are the most important thing and I think everyone deserves love in their life from friends or family. I also believe it's the simplest things in life which give the greatest joy.

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Balancing the different parts of your life

It has become clearer as time's gone on (I'm only 38 though), how important it is to keep balance in life. To make sure you're spending time with the people you want to, you're fitting in the things which physically or mentally exercise your body and mind and study or work doesn't overtake your life. It's a difficult thing to manage and we don't get lessons in it. It get more complicated if you're in a relationship when you're then balancing someone else's needs and time as well.

Career choice, career change

Having held management positions in some great advertising agencies, I made a career choice at 21, had a lot of fun, earned some money but realised I didn't want to do one thing for my whole life and have made a change. It's a tough choice, the initial choice of career is important and managing the change is often hard and scary.

Difficult parents

These are intense and sometime difficult relationships and I've had to manage (not always well) some in my own life, particularly following the divorce of my parents when I was 19. I feel well qualified to lend an ear on this one.

Why mentor on horsesmouth?

I remember coming home from work late one night a couple of years ago. I bumped into my neighbour who was also late home. I'd not really spoken to him before, but at 10pm in the dark we stood and talked for half an hour about how things were going, and about life. It turned out we'd both recently lost a parent. He said to me 'Everyone has their crosses to bear, it's how you carry them that counts'. That phrase really stuck with me and it came from someone I didn't really know. Life can be tough and it's not always easy to get advice from someone you know already. I'd like to help in any way I can. I'm 38, old enough to have some good experience of life, but also young enough to feel connected to younger people looking for some advice. I'm a good listener and want to help anyone I can move in the right direction. Mentoring is a great thing and this site is a great idea.

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