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Sas aged 28
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Female , 28

Hi :)! I'm Sas, I'm a Psychology graduate, now working as a 1:1 teaching assistant. I'm hoping to eventually get into dramatherapy, as I want to work in an environment where I can help people overcome their problems and reach their full potential.

I have experienced non-clinical depression and anxiety, counselling, morbid thoughts, family mental ill-health, difficult relationships (both with boyfriends and family), loss of libido, bullying and academic pressure. If you think I may be able to help with any of these issues, then please feel free to message me :)

Life experiences

Depression/morbidity

I was bullied a lot in my last year of primary school, and it'd taken a lot to hold things together. That summer, something just seemed to snap, and I became fixated on thoughts of death and suicide. I would think about different ways of killing myself, and what dying might be like until I started to get panicky. I often felt low and worthless, and would sit crying for hours.

Eventually I realised that I needed help, so I had counselling for a few weeks. I found it hard to accept that I will always experience these feelings from time to time, but I have learned how to manage them over time. A big help was when I started writing poetry, which helped me to express my feelings.

Academic stress

I've always been a high achiever, and put pressure on myself to do well, but this got out of hand when I went to uni. I started getting anxious about my coursework, and worried that whatever I did wouldn't be good enough to get high marks.

As a result, I often wouldn't start work until a couple of days before the deadline because I'd spent so much time worrying about it, and I began to get panic attack symptoms, like chest pains, dizziness, shakiness, loss of libido, and thoughts that I was going to die.

I sought help through the uni counselling service, which helped me realise that I'd placed too much emphasis on my academic achievement as a way of defining myself. I realised that there was so much more to my personality than my grades, and I began to adopt a much healthier work ethic and view of myself. It was hard not being academically exceptional anymore, but I realised that I had to take the pressure off myself in order to be happy.

Relationships

I have a fair amount of experience in navigating my way through difficult relationships with family (particularly my dad), friends, and boyfriends. My parents split up when I was very young, and I had a very strained relationship with my dad, which eventually broke down when I was 17. In my early 20s, I found out that he was planning to adopt a child, which was a difficult thing to work through, as it unearthed my feelings of not being good enough for him.

My nan has also suffered from bipolar depression, so I have some experience of mental ill-health, and the impact that this can have in your relationship with that person. I have also experienced successful and not so successful friendships, and relationship problems, including jealousy, loss of libido, emotional abuse, and relationship breakdown.

Why mentor on horsesmouth?

I've always wanted to enter a profession in which I can help others, and having counselling myself made me realise the impact that support and guidance can have. I'd like to be able to help others in a similar way. My experiences have taught me a lot, and I'm happy to share those if they can be of use to someone else :)

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