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smileforme aged 32
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Self description

Female , 32

I had a fairly average upbringing, with two parents in the home and an older brother. My Dad wasn't a model father, but he loved us regardless and simply made some poor decisions along the way. We didn't have a lot of money but my parents owned their house and always managed to keep the worst of it from us.
I was a bright child, and excelled in reading and writing in particular, although I have often failed to achieve my potential through fear of failure.

I recently returned home from living in Australia and am currently struggling with what is known as reverse culture shock. I have left behind a friendship base and a man I love to pursue a career in teaching. Whilst I feel I have made the right decision for my career and future happiness, I am still struggling to adjust to these changes in my life.

Life experiences

Family Suicide

My brother has made two suicide attempts in the past.
I have experienced discovering someone you love in a state of overdose, and have seen the impact that has on your family.


My brother's suicide attempts were mostly related to his confusion over his sexuality, and the repercussions of hiding this from family and friends. I have supported him through the experience and fully understand how difficult leading a homosexual life can be.

Superficial Scars

A number of years ago I burned my whole right forearm with hot oil from the oven. I had routine appointments with a clinic to change very painful dressings, and had very little use of my arm for around three weeks.
I have been left with a visible scar which may never fade. As well as 2nd degree burns to most of my arm, I also have 3rd degree burns on my wrist and so a loss of sensation in those areas. I cannot expose my arm to sunlight without using factor 50 sunscreen as there is a very strong risk of developing skin cancer.
The accident left me open to staring and whispering, and a lack of self-confidence, which I have had to overcome in starting a new life at university.

Why mentor on horsesmouth?

I think Horsesmouth will be an opportunity for me to help others in a way that I have needed it in the past. I feel I have been through many personal ordeals, which have given me strength, and character. I went through these alone, with few friends for support, and so I would like to give my time to others going through similar experiences so that they don't feel as alone as I did. Everyone has a different approach to dealing with things, I was very open with my problems at the time but unfortunately there was no-one around who cared to listen. That made me feel unloved, unwanted, and ultimately unimportant. No-one should suffer alone.

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